Four Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid

by Randy on May 23, 2010

Online dating can be convenient, exciting, and help you quickly meet the person of your dreams. But in order for you to get the most from the experience it is important that you avoid these four common pitfalls:

  • Don’t be Misleading

Since online dating is based a great deal on the picture you post and the profile you write, there is a huge temptation to enhance ourselves by fudging the facts in our favor. We all want to look younger, more fit and healthy, and to be perceived as a fantastic catch. But the way to do that is to take good care of ourselves, lead rich and interesting lives, and acknowledge our positive attributes. Posting a photo taken 10 years ago or explaining that you are an athlete when you are in fact a couch potato will only invite misunderstanding and disappointment. There are plenty of attractive potential partners who will adore you just as you are, and will share the same lifestyle preferences. So be yourself and be confident and you’ll find more compatibility online.

  • Don’t Compromise Confidentiality

Until you meet in person, follow the same common sense rules of confidentiality that you follow when dealing with any stranger. Don’t give out your cell phone number or other personal information, for example, and certainly don’t share intimate photos of yourself that could wind up in the wrong hands or on your employer’s desk.

  • Don’t Forget the Goal

Sometimes people get so caught up in the thrill and excitement of online romance that they forget to make the move to offline dating. Instead of spending hours together at the movies or the beach, online daters spend months and months chatting and emailing over the Internet. That’s great, but if you go ahead and meet in person then you have the best of both worlds – the chance to relate offline as well as through online chats and email correspondence.

So don’t forget the point of it all and you’ll double your fun.

  • Don’t Forget to Have Fun

Fun is the whole point of online dating, and if you’re having a good time with people you enjoy then everything else will fall into place naturally and automatically. Keep it light and carefree rather than intense and melodramatic and you’ll both have a better time and increase the chances that you’ll also hit it off nicely when you eventually meet offline.

Also keep in mind that the best dating sites understand the mechanics of online dating and romance, and they create dating situations and environments that are conducive to a wonderful experience. They keep daters well informed and educated about how to get the most from cyber relationships. They make site navigation easy and intuitive, and they encourage behaviors that are both respectful and enjoyable. They also do an excellent job of helping to screen potential dating partners so that you find people with whom you have great chemistry without having to spend hours sorting through profiles of those who have little in common with you. So choose good dating sites and you’ll be a long way along the path toward finding great dates.

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The Real Deal Behind Jealousy

by Randy on May 17, 2010

Jealousy means a lot to many people.  For men, it can be the number one indicator to get out of a relationship while to women, a mild case of jealousy can make her feel like she has finally met Mr. Right.  Overall, jealousy results because of competition, comparison and the possibility of being replaced by so called competition.  Many times jealousy comes as a result of insecurity but on the other hand, in certain relationships, jealousy can be an indicator that something else is happening between the person you love and someone else.  Let’s look at the different jealousy scenarios.

Men are not fans of jealousy.  Sometimes it can be cute but the constant phone calls, interrogations and clinginess ultimately lead a man to terminate a relationship.  Many men are faithful and will not cheat on their partner.  Many will be upfront about cheating as well.  So if your boyfriend has not cheated on you but you continue on your jealous streak, one day he will either break up with you or show you that he is tired of you making things up and will cheat on you so that you actually do have something to complain about.  If you are jealous, complain to your girlfriends but not to him especially when deep down you know that the person that you are with is actually a really good guy.

Women enjoy feeling secure and knowing that a man is willing to protect her, even from another man’s advances, shows her that she is desired.  Just like with men, she does not appreciate the constant badgering but she does like the manly fact that her boyfriend does feel some sort of insecurity that there is a possibility that he could lose her even though she knows that she would never let him go.

The last scenario for jealousy is a tough one.  Some couples are great together but one day a person of the opposite sex enters into the picture and jealousy soon comes as a result.  Even though you are committed to your partner and you love that person, this new person and you may seem to click very well.  This undefined chemistry will send direct signals to your partner that there is something going on even thought there is not.   Sometimes we are blinded by the fact that we are in a relationship but secretly desire to be in another.  Your partner will notice this and without confessing it, his or her jealousy will show itself.  In this case, you have to make the decision whether this new mystery person is right for you or if you truly love and want to spend the rest of your days with your current partner.

Jealousy happens for many reasons and can be good in moderation.  Jealousy can give certain people a feeling of desire while it can also cause one side to part ways from the relationship.  Jealousy may also be a final indicator that it is time to move on amicably from a relationship.

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